We as women are supposedly the more sensitive sex.  We differ from the male ‘players’ and are, supposed to be more likely to achieve orgasm with someone we know and trust.  But is that really true? 

Recently I wrote a blog about women having orgasms while they were working out in the gym. These orgasms were quite unexpected and not the result of sexual thoughts or physical stimulation. The exercises which hit the spot centred around the core abdominal muscles — produced this phenomenon and given the name ‘coregasm’.

The female orgasm is as diverse as it is fascinating, and we’re still a long way from understanding it.  But, I do believe that women are able to experience a feeling of sexual arousal every bit as easily and intensely as men can. 

For too long, our views on the female orgasm have been mired in misconceptions based on old-fashioned ideas of how women should behave. Science just doesn’t bear most of it out.

The truth is, very little research has ever been done into women’s sexuality. And what research was done, for example by Masters and Johnson in the Fifties — the ‘pioneers’ who recorded some of the first laboratory data on the anatomy and physiology of human sexual response — was very heavily influenced by the culture of the time, which assumed that women didn’t really enjoy sex.

They were right in a way. Many women didn’t. But how much of this was because both sexes were so ignorant about the mechanics of the female body?

‘The biggest factor regarding whether an older woman was enjoying an active sex life was whether or not she had a new partner’.

A generation ago, most people hadn’t even heard of female erogenous zones and, if they had, they certainly didn’t talk about them. In fact, to this day, there’s still debate over whether the G-spot even exists, let alone what its actual role is during orgasm. 

So thank heavens scientists are finally exploring the issue of what happens to a woman’s body during sex coolly and objectively. Some of the findings have been pretty explosive.

Australian psychiatrist Prof Lorraine Dennerstein recently embarked on a large-scale study of the sexual responses and habits of menopausal women, which will revisit them over many years.

Many hoped that Dennerstein and her colleagues would find some kind of smoking gun — something lacking in older women that could be linked to a decrease in sexual desire as women aged.

Instead, she found something more curious. The biggest factor regarding whether an older woman was enjoying an active sex life? Not her weight, her health, or even her hormonal status. It was whether or not she had a new partner.

That’s right — women enjoyed more orgasms if they were having sex with a new man. 

Other studies have shown, that some women can climax purely by having less obvious parts of their body stimulated, such as their breasts. There is also scientific backing for the idea that for females, sexual satisfaction is ‘literally all in the mind’.

Emerita Professor Beverly Whipple at Rutgers University, in the U.S. — who pioneered the discovery of the G-spot in 1982 — found in 2004 how some women with spinal injuries can have orgasms simply by thinking themselves into the mood.

In short, the biggest sexual organ could well be the brain.

The implication is that women’s brains behave differently when experiencing pleasure according to whether they are alone or with a partner. It also suggests that a woman’s solo orgasm may be different to one she experiences with another person.

Perhaps the most important message is that when it comes to discovering how our bodies work, we are at the start of a long and fascinating journey.

A workout at the gym? A series of sexy thoughts? A loving evening under the marital duvet with a long-term partner, or a passionate clash with a new boyfriend? They all have their ways of leaving us satisfied.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

By Jennifer Landa, M.D. 

I am pleased to announce the arrival of my new book, The Sex Drive Solution for Women! It is my hope that this book will empower women to take back control of not only their sex lives, but their happiness, self-esteem and health. 

When I first began my practice, I spent my days diagnosing patients based on insurance company codes, prescribing drugs approved by their insurance company and then sending them on their way.  This is what I had been trained to do – a cookie-cutter approach to health and it was not fulfilling my aspirations as a doctor, much less the needs of my patients.

 I wanted to make a difference in the lives of my patients, offering them a chance to not only heal, but to prevent adverse health conditions and enjoy a full life of total wellness. This desire for change led me to pursue an advanced certification in anti-aging and regenerative medicine and re-establish my practice as a place to embark upon a lifelong journey to embrace and enjoy optimal health. 

The Sex Drive Solution for Women is part of my desire to share that journey with as many people as possible. This is a book for women in every stage of life – 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.  I have included tips not only for women who have lost their libido, but also for women who simply want to improve their sex lives, communicate better with their partners and experience a total wellness transformation!

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

When any group of married women get together for a no-holds-barred chat the conversation ultimately turns to sex.  And, one of them, or maybe all of them will admit to at some point being turned off sex.

They might joke about their loss of libido, but the reality is that it can become a corrosive problem that causes crippling guilt in the woman and forces untenable compromises on her relationship.

Loss of libido can strike at any age and the cause can be emotional, psychological or medical.  The emotional triggers include stress, anxiety, family concerns, financial worries and marital break-up.

‘I get into bed and just conk out. My loss of desire is nothing to do with my love for my husband - it’s very much a physical issue”, one woman admits.

Yes, it’s possible to sustain a marriage without sex, but it has a devastating impact on any sense of intimacy. There are a lot of women out there suffering from loss of libido but they won’t admit it, and that’s probably why so many marriages fail in later life. Loss of sex drive is often a reflection of low hormone production, most commonly experienced around the time of perimenopause. Those changes in a woman’s body pack a powerful punch.

A woman’s libido fluctuates. When you’re young, it’s always there. When you have children, it begins to fade — and when you reach 50, unless you’re with a man who makes you feel attractive, it can fade away all together.

Libido helps give women a sense of identity. The stronger and more confident you feel, the stronger your libido. ’I don’t think a woman’s libido ever dies.  But, a lot does depend on how the man in her life makes her feel”.

The good news is that a high proportion of women do eventually see their libido return. There is no quick fix, however, and, as of  yet, no wonder-drug to cure it. Libido is affected by your general health,  your self-confidence, your body image’.  If you are going through a change you should seek the advice of your physician.  Do your research before you go and be prepared to ask questions. 

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.