Can an affair actually help save a troubled marriage?  Believe it or not many women say it can.

1 in 3 reported that infidelity helped boost their marital sex life.

Of those who do have affairs, 73 per cent said that they are doing it because they feel neglected by their spouse or partner.

Among the women who said that neglect was the reason for their infidelity, many also cited not having their emotional needs met – a factor that played a significant role in their decision to find someone else.  This doesn’t come as a shock.  Feeling under appreciated, neglected and taken for granted is a common war cry amongst women.

‘The reality is that many people can’t leave their partners for financial reasons and women in particular are usually reluctant to sacrifice their family life.

‘So they are taking care of their needs outside marriage. They’re stepping into the male arena when it comes to infidelity.’

Relationship expert, Tracey Cox, comments: ‘Sometimes an affair can be a wake up call for a marriage and jolt one or both partners into realizing just how important they are to each other and how devastating it would be to lose them.’

But, in general, betrayal isn’t an easy pill to swallow by either partner.  Once the bond of trust is broken it’s very hard to knit it back together.

The way to solve problems in a relationship is to talk about them and confront them before there’s the temptation to play away.

Most fantasies don’t make it successfully from your overly active imagination to real life.  If you want to take your fantasies to the next level, try something that has the possibility of working to your pleasurable advantage.

Try these four.

Role-play: If you can stay in the moment and have a vivid imaginations role-playing fantasies is the best way to get the kick without the fallout.  If you can kick the jitters, most couples love it once they get in character.

Tie-up  games:  Great way to shift the power back and forth.  Blindfolds work too.

Spanking:  Kept playful rather than painful, it’s ‘naughty’ enough to liven things  up yet unlikely to go horribly wrong if you start off lightly and stop the  second anyone feels uncomfortable (in a bad way).

Sex in  public: Yes it’s illegal but if you’re sensible and discreet, assess each  situation carefully and keep (most) of your clothes on, you’ll probably get away with it. It’s naughty without being too ‘out there’ and the threat of discovery  adds excitement and edginess.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says, ”there’s no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.

by Linda Franklin

Allure did another one of those fluffy surveys.  This time it was to find out how men and women really feel about a woman’s changing looks, the effects of plastic surgery, and whether sex gets better with age.  Allure polled 2,000 people nationwide.

Survey says:

- women believe their beauty peaks at 31 – but agree with men that 30 is the most seductive age for a woman.

- men are the most confident in bed between the ages of 50 and 69, while women experience their peak of sexual confidence between age 18 and 29.

-57% of the men and women polled agreed that sex gets better with age, only a third of male baby boomers said they were attracted to women their own age.

-36% of men between 18 and 29 say that ’cougars are hot’.

-women are more pressured to look young.

-grey hair makes a women look old, but on a man it’s considered distinguished…although 63% of men color their hair to look younger, compared to only 36% of women.

Overall, 70% of men and women say they take non-invasive anti-aging measures, and only 1% admit to getting cosmetic surgery, injections and/or laser treatments.

The Real Cougar Woman is a 5-carat diamond who knows the importance of taking care of her health, beauty, relationships, finances and spirituality. Linda Franklin says,”there is no stopping a woman who has a strong belief system, passion and a dream. All things are possible”. Linda’s book, Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am helps women of all ages tap into their power and live life to the fullest.